Life after MSN
During my time in Spain, I became more and more dependent on MSN’s Messenger programme, particularly when it came to keeping in touch with family and friends back in the UK. It’s free to install, it’s free to use, you can hook your web cam up to it and you can send and receive MP3s, movies and images at the click of a button.
However, due to the fact that my workplace at the time allowed its employees to use such programmes during working hours, it became something of an addiction. Not just for me, but most of my colleagues too. We would use it to talk about other colleagues behind their backs, to ogle any rare species that graced the office floor or just to have a whine and a moan about life in general. But it was such a distraction that deadlines were often missed (not by me, of course) and rumours (for example, ‘MP’ snogging ‘SB’ in the kitchen), began to fly around the place quicker than a mosquito to my bare legs.
I must admit though, I do miss it now. It was fun. It created drama, it induced laughter and made each day juicier than a bloated pomegranate – another reason why getting out of bed was so much easier on a Monday morning in Spain.
But strangely, the obsession continued beyond working hours. I would get home, switch on my laptop and get straight back on MSN. It began to rule my life and I felt like I was living ‘online’. Nothing was real. Just images and words and abbreviations and cyber sounds. Hell, I even managed to forge some kind of online relationship with a complete stranger/total loser from the USA, but I didn’t realise that’s what he was until I got back to the UK and back to reality.
So, the moral of the story is, there is no moral. If you want to live your life online, that’s fine. Just don’t let it take over completely because it’s REAL people and REAL situations that matter the most. Nowadays, I don’t use MSN. My laptop is out of action and my current job doesn’t allow use of such programmes so it’s completely disappeared from my life. For the time being, anyway.
Since not being exposed to extreme MSNing for a good 5 months or so, I now have a REAL man and a REAL relationship and the best thing about it is he can’t switch me off when my behaviour gets erratic! However, if you live far away from your family and close friends, it’s the cheapest way to keep in touch, so log on!
Get real.